I Will Take Care Of Me
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” -Leo Tolstoy
When we are so busy wishing someone else would change, we really are saying we wish they would change to fit how we want them to be. No matter how much we spin it, that is the case. Acceptance of others just as they are is one of the hardest things for us to do. It is also the answer key to harmony. We all came here in a unique incarnation and we have our own individual experiences that shape us. Even identical twins are going to have their own idiosyncrasies. For us to truly accept each other, we have to acknowledge and accept that we are not going to always think or believe the same way. Once we get past that, then it is simply a matter of being okay with allowing each other to be without trying to influence or change them. We really have no control over another person. We are the only person we can change. Jim Rohn says, “The greatest gift you can give to somebody is your own personal development. I used to say, ‘If you take care of me, I will take care of you.’ Now I say, ‘I will take care of me for you, if you take care of you for me.’”
Dear Angels, the struggle is real when we find ourselves wanting or expecting others to change and realize that we are beating our heads against the wall. It is a hard realization that we can only change ourselves and in doing so we will have more peace in life. Do you have any words for us regarding this?
Dear Ones, when you are so busy trying to manipulate or change others you are totally neglecting your own self. Ask yourself what the motivation is for wanting them to change. Is it your need to control how another being acts or speaks? Are you focused on what is “wrong” with them so you do not have to focus on what needs to be healed inside of you? This is indeed a hard lesson but a necessary one for you to understand how to achieve harmony and unconditional love. You cannot fix anyone. If it is a self-destructive behavior you are trying to change in another such as abuse or addiction, know that your need to control will only exacerbate the problem. Your attempts will most often be met with resistance as their change has to happen on the inside. Your best option is to love them unconditionally and accept them as they are, essentially loving them through their struggle. Focus on what is going on inside of you. Where is there an expectation or hurt inside of you that is reacting so strongly to what someone else is doing? Go there to that place. Love yourself. Accept yourself with all your own perceived flaws. Discover your worthiness as you open to Divine love. This will assist you in accepting your loved one just as they are. That is the change necessary and when you can live this by example, you will make a difference in the lives of those around you.
Dear Angels, thank you. I love you. Namaste y’all.
Today, I promise to look closely in the mirror before I judge or criticize another and I will take care of me.
Teri Angel is a Happiness Coach, energy healer, best-selling author, spiritual teacher and mentor, and a motivational speaker. Teri is the Peace Campaign Coordinator for We, The World and the founder of a nonprofit organization, Angelspeakers Inc., which offers educational workshops and events centered around environmental awareness to include animals and nature, peace advocacy opportunities and ancient wisdom teachings. Teri’s movement “Peas For Peace” involves strengthening our awareness of the oneness of all, unifying mankind through compassion, peace, love and joy. She was named "She Who Blesses the Sacred Land" during the Peace On Earth Tour and embraces that title with loving grace. www.angelspeakers.com
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